On Forgiving...

Hello, my children,

This is your mother speaking.  I first of all want to tell you just how wonderful it is to be your mother.  I am truly blessed to have each of you in my life, and also blessed that we are all 'friends'.  Not every parent and child get to stay friends.

I was listening to a talk show the other day on the radio and the gentleman being interviewed said something that at first I thought was odd.  He said, "It can be therapeutic to hate your parents".  He was talking about his relationship with his dad and how it had been very rocky in his earlier years, but how that he and his dad got through those times and are now able to have quite a good relationship. Why do I speak of this, you ask?  Well, as you know, I had some 'hating' to do around my parents.  And in my family it was never ok to admit that you were angry with your mom and dad! Never! So the anger I felt (and had no idea how to express) went 'down under'.  It wasn't good.  Not at all.

Since, though, I have learned that it's ok to be angry with mom and dad.  I myself had to let all that anger out before healing would begin.  But here's the thing I guess I'm really trying to say to you.  It is not healthy for any of us to hold on to anger forever.  Holding on to anger only serves to make people depressed and physically ill.  In fact, holding on to any negative emotion can do that to us.  Through learning Reiki and through the therapy I did, I learned that our bodies store memories and emotions.  Our bodies remember everything!  And that is why, if there is anger or unforgiveness in our hearts, we do best to find a way to release those negative ways of being.  Holding on to negative junk only hurts us.  It doesn't hurt the people we are angry at.  So finding a way to release those thoughts and emotions are imperative in our overall wellness.  I believe that with all my heart....

And that is why, yes, I was angry.  So angry!!   And once I  got all of that out, it was easier to see my parents in a new light.  A loving light.  A forgiving light.  Nowadays, I can remember all the good things about them.  Nowadays I can say I love them, and I know they loved me. This is why I sort of understood what that gentleman was saying about it being 'therapeutic' to hate your parents.  

It's ok and understandable to be angry, but we must somehow get past it.  So, dear children, someday, if you are ever exploring your anger toward mom and/or dad, that's ok with me.  All I ask is that you get past it, for your own health and wellness.



Forever yours,

Your Mother